My birthday falls on Valentine's Day, with that being said, February was MY MONTH. It didn't quite start out that way though, I was alone and unemployed. I was depleted of energy and lost mentally, I didn't know where to pick up the pieces. I was in a depressed state for almost 30 days and that's when I knew something had to change.
Being in this state made me realize that I was in control, even though I was depressed and not feeling like myself, I was still winning. I actually had what it took to get where I wanted to be, I just needed to activate it. I needed to give myself permission to overcome this. I allowed my body to feel what it was feeling in the moment, whether that was happiness or sadness. I faced my depression head on and I accepted every single moment for what it was. I knew that better days were coming to come, no matter how long it took.
"The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are."- J.P. Morgan
It took me a while to get out of that rut of always being miserable. Trust me, it does not happen overnight, it's something you have to work on constantly. Being negative and thinking negatively started to become normal to me. It took me just about two years to realize that I wasn't going to win if I was not actively doing anything to contribute to my happiness and I've found that this helps to make my day a bit better. If you're suffering from depression or anxiety, you can try doing more of what you love and being active. Try yoga, find a gym or enroll in a Zumba class. Read that book that's been forever sitting in your bedroom, find a group of people than you can vibe with and be comfortable around. Wake up determined to overcome your current state and understand that you are fighting a battle that you can win.
Everyday, I did something that contributed to my overall self care. Here's a cool idea I came up with that I do everyday and you can too:
Think about 3-5 activities that you enjoy doing or want to start doing and write them down on a sticky note.
When you complete each activity peel it off and place it down to the bottom as a way of you completing the action! By doing this you will feel accomplished and it also serves as a reminder of your baby steps. This may seem like a very small activity but small steps lead to very big destinations.
In February, I evolved and grew into someone I didn't even think was possible. I was where I needed to be at that moment, the struggle serves a purpose. I soaked up the negative and turned it into positive,I gave up on crying, moping and took action. You need to get yourself right mentally and start preparing to live the life you always dreamed of. It is all about action, change isn't just going to come magically. Don't be upset or mad at yourself for having anxiety or depression, understand that it is a part of you and anyone willing to be in your life has to accept you and your growth.
I'm here to tell you that it does get better.
If you really want to elevate you need to tap into your thoughts, not the thoughts on the surface, your inner thoughts, your thoughts way way deep down in your membrane. The ones you don't always share with everyone because you are afraid of their reaction or what they might think of you. Your thoughts are safe with you, think what you please and feel what you desire.
What's absolutely necessary for your elevation is a one on one with self, you need to be able to be real with yourself in order to achieve that elevated state. Once I tapped into my thoughts and deciphered what was real and what was not, I was able to determine my reality. Think that you can do it, feel that inner strength, be all that you dream of using your thoughts. Feel the moment and be okay with it.
My birthday month put me in a position to win even when I felt like I was losing. You have to be determined, once you think that you can, you really CAN. It's all about perspective and know that you are never alone.
It's time to go from being the caterpillar to the butterfly.
Dolce Thompson is originally from New York City and she has a passion for anything that brings out the creativity within her. She is an artist, blogger, creator and author of an unpublished self help memoir that will be released later in 2018. Her blogs are mostly focused on motivating others and promoting self growth. You can check out Dolce's website here.