It was in 2016 when my sink broke, that I realized I was ungrateful…womp womp.
At the beginning of that year, I made a promise to myself to document tiny blessings and store them in a jar called the "Blessing Jar." Truthfully, as the months sped along and work and life took off, I was blogging less and less and the positioning of the jar was being shifted from the forefront of the table where I would be reminded of the little blessings to being covered by papers, hidden beneath envelopes…intermittently covered by clothes ….I was forgetting to be thankful.
Then my sink broke. For those of you unaware, I live on my own since my mom passed away in 2011 ie. the sink being broken is an expense for me to fix ! I whined! I hollered ! WHY ME! Did I mention that the washing machine also broke a few months ago? The frustration that I felt was real …all around me 22 year olds were partying away their summers or staycationing, traveling, doing something ….NOT SPENDING THEIR SALARY ON A KITCHEN SINK!.
It was in this moment that I realised just how ungrateful I was. I had nothing to whine about because:
1) I have a job which allows me to replace the kitchen sink
2) I have a house in which I can replace a kitchen sink
3) I was washing dishes after cooking a meal when said kitchen sink broke ie I have food in my house. Why was I complaining again?
It is all about perspective. For every negative, you can possibly find a positive.
It is too easy to lose sight of the little things. The things that matter, the blessings God grants to us daily, to me daily, to you daily. The blessing of life, health, shelter, food, family, friends, speech, movement…need I go on?
I love the line in Sinach’s song "He Did It Again" that says "I’m counting my blessings, one, two, three, four, a million !" I had taken my eyes off of my blessings and could only see the negatives.
Let me share some of my blessings with you:
In the year 2011, my mother passed away suddenly as I was entering my final year of College and preparing to be the head of a ministry team in a student led Christian organisation on campus. I had no job, no money, no inheritance... nothing. I was uncertain how I would pay for school when someone blessed me with my full school fees and money for books as well.
University came and I was still without a full time job. I worked at a summer camp for $150 a week and University fees were $1000 ie. even if I worked all 9 weeks of summer and saved $100 every week I would be short $100 and not have money for books or food for the semester. It would take too long to tell you the full story but let’s just say I was blessed with all the finances to make it through University without a full time job for three years!
About two years ago, a large leak developed in the roof of my home directly over my bed. In case you didn’t catch that one …Whenever the rain fell I would have to sleep on the couch and shift around my mattress because I would get soaked. I was still unemployed and at my whits end when my refrigerator decided it would break down as well. On a visit to one of my mom’s friends, I really could not hold up emotionally and explained all that I had been going through. Would you believe me if I told you that by the next day, my refrigerator was repaired and so was my roof?
God always shows up and makes a way. Never lose faith.
The blessings of the Lord in my life are toooooooo many to count so why was I complaining about a kitchen sink? God I ask you to forgive me for being so ungrateful! Help me never to lose sight of who you are.
"Therefore do not be anxious, saying, What shall we eat? or What shall we drink? or What shall we wear? For the Gentiles seek after all these things and your Heavenly Father knows that you need them all."- Matthew 6:31-32
Take some time today to reflect on the blessings of God in your life, great and small. It does not have to be something "big and spectacular" but how He has showed Himself true and mighty in your life today.
If you take the time to look around, you will realize just how much you have to be grateful for. Even if you're at a place in your life where you feel like everything is going wrong and your blessings are slim to none, take a hard look in the mirror and change your mindset.
It's time to start preparing for your blessings and appreciating the small things.
Necole Layne is a servant of God, blogger, singer and an aspiring Attorney-at-Law. She has successfully completed her Bachelor of Laws and is currently pursuing the Legal Education Certificate at the Hugh Wooding Law School. Follow Necole on Instagram @nikkinecs and check out her blog here!