When did we all get so busy? Too busy to eat, too busy to rest, too busy to spend time on what really matters.
Financial and social demands have us stretched to our limits. In these modern times, self care has become of the utmost importance. There is nothing selfish, I REPEAT, nothing selfish about making yourself a priority and checking in. You are there for others and it is time you show up for yourself.
As a mother of a toddler, sometimes it is difficult to find a balance. Honestly, when I put my needs first, I feel like I am being a bad mother at times. The guilt and doubts start to set in but after a few months, I had the ephiphany that I cannot properly take care of her if I do not nurture myself first.
I have also given too much and settled for way too little in my relationships. It's funny the lengths we would go to for the people we think love us. In my work life, I have also given too much. I was chasing the dollar and sacrificing my bank holidays, I didn't find an ounce of joy most days but I had to keep it together. Keep together enough strength to go through the motions and watch the clock in order to get through the day.
Let's not talk about the social pressures, the pressure to "fit in" and be part of the crowd. Social media saturation can also be very draining: Facebook, WhatsApp, Snapchat; the list goes on. Our friends, family and lovers always want us plugged in and we have to check in with them asap.
Has a friend or lover ever bitched at you because you took too long to answer their text? I am sure we all have and these pressures of life, these constant demands can leave a girl feeling drained. When this happens, it's time to check in with yourself.
Relax, Rejuvenate and Recharge
Put down the devices, take a break and spend some quality time with yourself. Ask yourself these simple questions:
- Am I happy?
- How am I feeling physically?
- Am I eating well?
- Am I nourishing my mind?
- How am I emotionally?
- Am I giving too much of myself to others and work?
- Are my relationships mutually satisfying?
- Am I present in my daily life or just going through the motions hoping for a better day to come?
- Am I being true to myself or merely living to pursue and hoard things to impress people?
You may be thinking I don't have time to think about all of this, I am wayyyy too busy. You can never be too busy to evaluate your life and this won't take long. You just need a few minutes a day at least to ask yourself these questions.
Aren't you worth that much to yourself? A few minutes a day to have a conversation with yourself? You dont need big expensive gestures to take care of yourself. Although, I would love a trip to Necker Island. Self care can be as simple as patting yourself on the back for a small achievement. Positive reinforcement leads to positive changes.
Make a list of what you love about yourself, have a manicure or read an inspirational novel. Feed your mind, body and soul!
You have the power to decide what is best for your life and for me, that is self care.
Find yourself and discover what you love, unlock your potential and become the goddess that God created you to be.
I advise you to make taking care of yourself a priority. Don't just take my word for it, becoming the best version of yourself will aid you in attracting the right people and help you to lead the best life possible. #selfcareisselflove
Tachira Wiltshire is a mother of a young toddler with a passion for writing especially during the early hours of the morning. You can follow her on Instagram @tachi_speaks and check out her blog below.