Learn to love without condition. Talk without bad intention. Give without reason. And most of all, care for people without any expectation- Unknown.
Selflessness is a mindset, it refers to the way in which you approach situations and people. Simply put, it’s about putting someone else’s interest before yours. It’s doing someone a favor even when it puts you out a little and believing that life isn’t solely about your own needs. Whether we like to admit it or not, in today’s world, we are encouraged to focus on ourselves selfishly. To tune out the voices and needs of others and be solely concerned with our needs and preferences. But why not focus on you? You’re important right! Yes, you are! But life can’t be solely about you, there must be a balance between meeting your needs and meeting those of others where you can.
There is a time, a place and a how, for everything. Realistically in today’s society, many people who exhibit selfless qualities are overlooked and often abused, so it is conceded that there is a time where we cannot allow our personal well-being to suffer at the cost of meeting the needs of others.
However, it must also be acknowledged that we ought to strive to strike a balance between taking care of ourselves and taking care of others. Sometimes we will be able to do both simultaneously, while other times it will be impossible. Many factors should be taken into consideration when determining whether the situation warrants that you exhibit selflessness or selfishness.
These factors varying depending on the circumstances and can be determined by asking yourself questions like:
- Is this the only occasion where I will be able to complete what I need to?
- Am I the only option this person has?
- What other options can this person utilize?
Selflessness is an imperative component to relationships whether it be friendships or marriage. It is also a key to happiness and fulfillment. I don’t know about you, but for me and many others I’ve spoken to, there is something deep within us that is fulfilled by our ability to meet the needs of others, especially those closest to us.
There is power in self sacrifice.- Veronica Roth
At Christmas, we give each other gifts representative of and as a reminder of the gifts given to Jesus by the wise men who visited him. This fact and practice, like so many other Christian practices at Christmas is often overlooked and instead gift giving becomes a ritual or a competition of who can give the best gifts or who received the best gifts. We should give gifts at Christmas and all year round to affirm our personal relationship with our friends and family and to show our affection or gratitude, among other wholesome reasons. But do we really give for these reasons? Is it really that we give because we want to make someone happy or because we want to meet a need?
In today’s Age of Me, Me, Me, we are force fed ideas which promote the ideology of "you do for me and I do for you" and question before we give;"why should I do for you, when you can’t do anything for me?"
God sending His son to die and reconcile us to Him has been the most selfless act ever. So much would be lost if not for the selfless act of God. Similarly, so much would be lost without the continuation of selfless acts of others, like you and me. Through these acts, we can change and influence the world. As quite aptly put by Ronald Reagan- We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.
Jannah is first and foremost a Christian and secondly she is an Attorney-at-law. She is passionate about nurturing and meeting the needs of children with special needs. She enjoys volunteering with various charitable organizations and spending quality time with friends and family.